Something 'bout love

What about love? What do I know about it? What do you know about it?

What is love to begin with?

I believe different people have their own views on that. I mean I know what some of you might think, "who do you think you are talking bout someone else's love?" or "what do you know about love?" when you read further on. I'm just a blogger and I'm just expressing what I have / had in mind.

There's a lot of degrees of love that people express it as; here's some.

Love at first sight

It's a very common term people use. People do ask, "Why her?" and they would reply, "I don't know man, I just fall in love with her" no reason or whatsoever. They just fall for what they saw. There's no other reason to it.

Love is blind

This no rare to use by now. They say love is blind, people fall in love after a period of time, ignoring their partner's imperfections. Usually this kind of love do last. However, some love are really just blind to one party while the other is just taking advantage of it. Like somebody I used to know, he gave her quite a lot and sacrificed pretty much for this girl he liked. There were some rough times they almost broke up and I had to help to keep them together. But after awhile I saw the flaw in that relationship, she had a lot of requests and 'wants' from him. He gave her for the fact he loved her. In the end, they broke up after a year, for reasons I wasn't there for. But it was like something good because eventhough he loved her, she was practically 'leeching' from him. 

Love is a lie

This would be normally words from a heartbroken person. These are normally cases of they loved the other while the other was just 'playing'. I mean like the other person has no commitment into these kind of stuffs. Some would say it's just a test, or an experience, y'know. 

Those are some of it. I can say I'm somewhere in complex between love. I'm single but been through three. Each one lasted half shorter than the other. The first relationship I had was 2 years long, the other two, do the math :)

I mean, what does love do to people. People change because of love. You see those quotes saying like 

"I don't love you anymore. You've changed"

"If he's not willing to change for you, he doesn't deserve you"

"I didn't change. I became matured, unlike you"

you see these kind of quotes you start to think, "should I change or should I not?".  Honestly, I would just say screw it. Seriously, who thinks there wouldn't be any change in a relationship? You did, I did. Everyone did. It's just our mental perception that we were happy with what we have then. When you do have a relationship that is long, long enough to know something changed, you start to see the bad in people. Some might change for the better, while some might change for the worse. Normally, they would see for the worse instead for the better.

I'm not to say that it is wrong, but if you really have loved that person, you would overlook it for the better. However, some people, I said some, they use it as a reason to break up instead. It's the typical thing to do when you dislike someone after a period of time. 

Here's a tip, when you fall in love with someone, first thing is to make sure they really, really love you too. I mean you love them for who they are and they love you for who you are too. How do you know? you might ask? You don't. You just have to give up and leave your comfort zone. Second thing is to expect. Expect changes in them. But that's not just it, don't just expect, love them for what changes it's gonna be. You can't predict what it's gonna be but atleast you're prepared. If they do change over the days, weeks, months, or over the years, do love them for who they are and for whom they are gonna be. (Unless they start to become drug addicts or alcoholics.)

P.S.

I meant those who changes into drug addicts and alcoholics. For those who wants to change themselves from them, maybe your love could save them. Don't get me wrong there.

This post might be long for you all too read but I do have some more.

The degree of separations. Those who are knocked down. Those who have been one-sided. Those who should know.

Those people who've became the dumpee might know these, the dumpers may have a clue.

To those who have heard The Script's Six Degrees of Separation, those degrees are something quite true.

First, you think the worst is a broken heart
What's gonna kill you is the second part
And the third, Is when your world splits down the middle
And fourth, you're gonna think that you fixed yourself
Fifth, you see them out with someone else
And the sixth, is when you admit that you may have fucked up a little

Those heartbroken people understands what's it like when someone you really loved leave you. It could even kill a person. They might look happy to their friends and family, look cheerful and joyful, but the truth is they are really dying inside. You never know someday a pal you know, jumps from the eight floor, or hang themselves to the ceiling fan or cut themselves to bleed to death. 

There are times when you got hang up on one person and can't give up on that person. I wouldn't say "get over it" or "there's someone better", but I would just say, "someday". No matter how long, there will be a limit, even if it was death that was the limit. You can't force someone to forget someone they've loved so much. Only you knew how beautiful, or how much it meant for you. People around you gonna keep saying it but one day, someday. 

I must say I went through that. But trust me, you guys gotta think bout what about people who loved you from a kid till where you are now. Someone's out there for you. You just haven't met the right "lobster" yet. (I got this from F.R.I.E.N.D.S.) Lobster have their own partner which they mate for life. There will be the "lobster" for you. ^~^ Never give up till you find one.

Love is something complicated, love is something beautiful and scary, love is what it is. Nothing can truly define love, you just have to find out yourselves.